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Three main goals

We have three main goals:

• give all of us a language for talking about a subject that’s quite awkward and uncomfortable to discuss;
• empower a whole front line, namely friends, to help;
• improve all of our ability to love better

signs of unhealthy love

intensity

• Abusive relationships don’t start out abusive. They start out exciting and exhilarating.
• In unhealthy love, these feelings shift over time from exciting to overwhelming and maybe a little bit suffocating.
• It’s important to remember that it’s not how a relationship starts that matters, it’s how it evolves.
• It’s important in the early days of a new relationship to pay attention to how you’re feeling.
• It’s also really important to start practicing using your voice to talk about your own needs.

isolation

• solation creeps in when your new boyfriend or girlfriend starts pulling you away from your friends and family, your support system, and tethering you more tightly to them.
• solation is about sowing seeds of doubt about everyone from your prerelationship life.
• Healthy love includes independence, two people who love spending time together but who stay connected to the people and activities they cared about before.